Looking for the Cause of Shyness?

The cause of shyness varies with each person who suffers
from the condition. Understanding the individual cause of
shyness can play a very important role in developing a
strategy to beat shyness.

The cause of shyness is often many pieces of a puzzle that
combined at some point to produce a fear of talking to
others.

Looking for the cause of shyness is an important
process in and of itself, and needs to be attempted before
the shyness can be successfully controlled in the long term.

There are several possibilities that may lead to shyness or
combine to produce the effect and the following list
attempts to list and clarify some of these cause of shyness
possibilities.

As you read this cause of shyness list, you may recognize
some causes or situations that you relate to and that might affect you.
Use this list to help brainstorm your own experiences and
fear, so that you can address your shyness from your own
individual starting point.

1. cause of shyness: Some shyness results simply from poor self-esteem.

People who have a poor self-image may not feel confident
enough or worthy enough to address other people.

Self-esteem is the understanding and appreciation that you
have values and virtues that make you unique and special.

A good self-image would mean that you could look at
yourself and see both the good and not very good sides of
yourself and accept them both as integral pieces to who
you are.

When you are unable to accept yourself and like yourself, it
stands to reason that you would assume others would not
like you as well. Unfortunately, we are often our own worst
critics, and other people will seldom view you as harshly
as you view yourself.

2. cause of shyness: Some shyness results from other conditions or factors in
a person’s life.

A person dealing with depression or generalized anxiety
disorder may feel so bad as a result of their condition
that they do not feel up to the task or worth the trouble
of communicating and interacting with other, seemingly
happy people.

Shyness that results from depression or anxiety usually will
not yield until the depression or anxiety is treated. If
you feel your shyness results from a depression or anxiety
disorder, consult your physician for treatment options.

3. cause of shyness: Shyness may result from a traumatic incident.

A speech delivered at an early age to a poor reception can
forever brand someone with the idea that other people do
not want to hear what they have to say. An obvious cause of shyness.

An outgoing person who is criticized or treated poorly at
home may no longer be able to be outgoing. Traumatic
events that cause shyness need to be dealt with in
conjunction with working on the shyness because the event
will continue to torment unless resolved and laid to rest.

These three causes are only a few of the many that have
been suggested as the cause of shyness. Take time to evaluate the
cause of shyness in your particular situation, and you will
be better able to address the shyness successfully.